The secret to know how to strengthen a Long Distance Relationship
How to strengthen a long distance relationship … Since the beginning of your LDR, everything was going well, but for some time now you feel like there is a gap between you and your partner?
You can’t quite explain why, but things are not like they used to be.
You talk about it between you but things do not progress. You feel lost.
Don’t panic, I’ve been there too! And only a few months after I met my Peruvian girlfriend.
It took me a long time to really understand all the issues behind the notion of « strengthening your long distance relationship ».
We tend to underestimate this phrase, especially in relationships.
In this article, I’m going to reveal a simple technique for strength your long distance relationship. It takes time and investment, but it’s not complicated.
Every couple wonders at some point how to strengthen their long distance relationship
I bet it’s happened to you: you’re having a wonderful time with your partner.
Everything is going well: you often talk together, you manage the arrival of the routine with a master hand and even if everything is not perfect in your relationship, you remain strong in the face of the distance and the lack of your lover.
Yes, you can say it: your long-distance relationship fills you with happiness.
But here’s the thing: you still feel that something is missing.
That this situation, as pleasant as it may be, is getting a little tired.
The craziness of the early days is slowly coming down and your daily habits as a couple are gradually settling in.
But you let it go.
After all, your LDR has always worked like this. Why should it change?
And then one day, it’s the drama.
The event that’s too much to handle and that definitely tips your mind into doubt.
- It could be an abominable lack of support during a very stressful time in your life, like an exam
- Or when your partner decides to go out with his friends again « in real life » leaving you alone once more, without any news until the next day.
- For me, it’s when I forgot Kyomi’s birthday. I’d like to tell you that this is a joke, but it’s the truth.
When it happens, you ask yourself 1000 questions:
Does he love me? How far would he be willing to go for me? Do I REALLY matter to him? Am I willing to make all these sacrifices in my life for this person?
This is an extremely difficult time to deal with. You question everything, everything you’ve built up to this point.
It’s part of all relationships, including those where physical contact is impossible.
You may come to a more than bitter conclusion: « my long distance relationship is not that strong. I should have done better ».
…
But is it your fault?
I want to tell you that it’s not at all: nobody taught you how to love at a distance.
Here are the 3 main reasons why you think your LDR is not strong:
1) You don't project yourself
Deep discussions about your future and important topics don’t happen often. In the end, you know each other only superficially.
2) You are not included enough in each other's lives
You make relatively important lifestyle decisions without taking the other person’s opinion into account (or hardly at all).
3) Bad routine kills the love between you
The lack of renewal in your activities and games is slowly killing the romance, attractiveness, flirtation, intimacy that you had intensely at the beginning of your LDR.
Bonus : Ask yourself these two questions
- When was the last time you learned something about your partner?
- When was the last time you did something for the first time with your partner?
As of this writing, I can answer « last week » to both of these questions. I tried 3 new LDR phone games with Kyomi and learned that she can edit videos very well for a beginner.
If you don’t remember, or it was months ago, the problem may have come from here!
Before you ask yourself how to strengthen your long distance relationship, you need to know what the problems are in your relationship.
However, it is easy to overcome these problems:
- Make your partner a priority at least once a month:
You’ll show her that she’s the most important person in your life and that at that very moment, she’s the only one who matters. It doesn’t matter what’s going on in your life. - Make multi-hour video calls:
You will discuss deep topics and leave room for spontaneity. You’ll build powerful, deep-seated feelings. - Renew your activities and topics of discussion:
You will bring novelty to your relationship. You’ll naturally talk about things you hadn’t thought of and spend special time sharing and exchanging. - Plan surprises:
You will show your partner that you love him/her. In addition to feeling unique and special, your lover will wonder « what did I do to deserve this?
The hardest part is doing it regularly
The time difference complicates everything. I have a 7 hours time difference (France – Peru), I know what I am talking about!
Not to mention everyone’s respective schedules, it is not always easy to find a time slot where everyone is available for a long period of time.
The lack of ideas and creativity also demoralizes.
Because you have to be able to prepare that video call. And you know as well as I do that it’s hard to find something to do remotely that you both enjoy.
Often, we end up watching Netflix and thinking we’ll do better next time.
Here's what you need to do to strengthen your long distance relationship:
You need to set up a virtual date night at least once a month.
Something that would resemble a traditional date, but tailored to the distance:
- A date set ideally a few weeks in advance to reduce the risk of canceling and have time to prepare for your date (yes, because you have to prepare!)
- A video call of at least 2 or 3 hours focusing your attention only on your partner, without any distraction
- Food and drink so that you don’t have a break in your call
- New and original questions and activities that you have never done before
- A plan to make a surprise for your partner to surprise him
- An intimate moment where the atmosphere becomes more sensual
Yes, it sounds silly.
But have you ever tried it?
Have you ever done a date that respects these 6 points?
I assure you that it works terribly well! Every time we finish our video call with Kyomi, we are both very happy with the evening we had. We know that we can go to bed with peace of mind and that our relationship is solidifying for the long term.
The most powerful thing is that it has repercussions on the unconscious: we noticed that we talked more and that we argued less in the days which followed these long virtual love meetings.
The only rule to respect to make it work is to prepare your date in advance.
How to set up a virtual date?
The most complicated part is not finding a date.
It’s preparing the activities and topics of conversation.
Even your discussions remain natural, spontaneity will only happen if you already have a solid base of things to do during your virtual date!
There are 2 methods:
The first is the one I chose: the long and tedious way.
I got lost on the internet for hours, sorting out the lame activities, the paying ones, the unachievable ones…
It’s hard to find coherent and original information. It takes more time than you think.
Or you can take a shortcut and discover my virtual date night box !
Everything is ready: you just have to set a date for your date.
It’s a thematic box to enjoy a romantic evening without having to worry about it:
- A secret challenge: be smarter than your partner to win
- 50 LDR Questions on a specific theme
- A personality quiz to discover your compatibility
- A thematic game to have fun together
- 3 recipes to prolong the experience without starving
- A movie recommendation and how to see it for free
- A sex game to awaken the flame within you
- A musical playlist to enhance the atmosphere
Currently, it is not available for sale.
I propose it at the end of each month because I modify it taking into account the return of my customers.
That way, I know what you like and what you don’t like!
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You will know how to strengthen your long distance relationship.
Immediately and for the months and years to come
See you soon,
Léo
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