our long distance relationship success story
the long distance relationship short story between a Peruvian and a French
« Hmmm… can you repeat please? The call cut off because of the connection, I didn’t hear »
is certainly the sentence I have heard the most since I started a long distance relationship. And it is also the one that annoys me the most! It’s even worse when Kyomi is teaching me to speak her native language, Spanish.
I think the 6,454 miles (or 10,387 kilometers) that separate us are not for nothing.
You would think it would be difficult to exchange in these conditions. But when you look at it more closely, I am learning the 4th most spoken language in the world, which is great for her family who can finally speak with me.
And that makes a common project for our couple in addition to the weekly necks where we spend time for each other. Maybe this long distance relationship blog will be in Spanish someday!
In fact, it was after one of these lessons, where we were particularly happy, that we discussed it for the first time. Why we thought our long distance relationship was going to be so hard to live with, or why we reconciliate so quickly after a fight.
In other words, we even came to feel guilty sometimes for not having this immense feeling of lack of the other, that’s to say!
And yes, we love each other! We have a fusional love that would make most couples who are physically together jealous.
This whole LDR story I am about to tell you is true.
In the following lines, you will know how we came to create this blog. So, are you ready to read our long distance relationship short story ?
The beginning of our long distance relationship short story
It’s October 2019, and I’m starting to plan one of my dreams, something I’ve been thinking about for a long time. You’ll find it « cliché », but I wanted to do an international trip of several months at the end of my studies, all alone. I think like a lot of people, I was influenced by Sean Penn’s film « Into the Wild ».
« Wow, that’s great, Léo. And where did you want to go? »
Well, I didn’t know! At first, I wanted to go to South Asia but I was also hesitating about Latin America. I wanted above all to travel, to get out of my comfort zone, to get to know myself (and maybe also to delay the dreaded moment of looking for my first job). The destination, I almost didn’t care ahah.
To see more clearly, I downloaded an application: Tandem. It allows anyone to find a partner anywhere in the world to learn a new language, and it’s free! It’s a great app. The open-mindedness, mutual help, and kindness are constantly present. I liked the idea of chilling in front of Netflix in the evening before going to sleep while talking to strangers from all over the world!
In short, I started to talk with Thai, Vietnamese, Colombians, Mexicans… however, one day in December, I come across Kyomi’s profile.
I sent the equivalent of a « like ».
Then she sent me the first message.
We spent days glued to our phones talking day and night.
3 months later, I took two weeks of holiday to travel to Peru
I still can’t explain the merger between us. I’m sure you’ve had this experience before, hit on a complete stranger without knowing why. Having the butterflies, you know? It was a very powerful feeling, difficult to explain it.
From 07 to 21 March 2020. At that time, we were starting to hear about Covid.
We made our international relationship official at that time, a few hours before the world entered into what we can call today a global pandemic.
Our online dating became real.
End of the travel (thanks you covid)
I had to be urgently repatriated after a week, on March 14th. Everything went very fast, a real emotional shock. Imagine traveling, discovering magnificent landscapes, treading immense and impenetrable lands. All this with your partner, whom you are seeing for the first time in your life. And suddenly it all stopped. For example, it took less than 6 hours from the moment we learned that Peru was closing its air borders with Europe to the moment my plane took off from Latin America. It was like being in a movie… Maybe one day I’ll tell you this complete true story. It seemed so unreal. This photo is the last one we took. We didn’t know it at that time. Can you see the difference in mood between her and me, ahahah?
10 months passed before we could meet again, on January 11th, 2021, after 2 cancelled flights. I had promised her that I would come back to finish our trip. And I am the kind of person who keeps my promises.
10 months during which we didn’t see the time.
Imagine telling a morbidly obese person that he only has a week left before he go into cardiac arrest if he doesn’t change his eating habits. This unexpected and brutal separation gave us the same electro-shock. Giving up was out of the question. Because we had no choice. We understood that not letting the routine settle down was the only way out so that our love would last AND we could finally visit Machu Picchu, together as it was planned. With fear in our stomachs, we launch ourselves as if our lives depended on it.
We took action… and it worked! Our international long distance relationship was amazing!
We have always been creative so that our relationship remains as it was in the early days: every week we challenged each other on things in life. The feeling of lacking disappeared little by little, replaced by an ever stronger love. In fact, our LDR worked so well that we wanted to start helping other international couples. That’s how the idea of creating a long distance relationship blog came out.
And our success ldr story finally continued
Today, we are together physically, but for how long? I can only stay few months in Peru. And she can’t come to France. The Covid-19 is still there, preventing many international couples from finding each other. But what I know is that putting up with the distance is no longer a problem. Our couple knows how to adapt now. We’ve proved it. And we will do it again as many times as necessary. It is for this reason that we have to create an LDR blog. It was our long distance relationship short story. We hope you liked it ! Before leaving, we want to tell you an important thing:
You have to understand something…
Something that at first glance may be difficult to perceive
But to you who read these lines, you have to know one thing :
Your LDR Story is unique
It belongs to you. You built it. And it’s up to you to make it grow. You want to discover new, as yet unexplored personalities in your couple. Or you want to chase away that routine that comes naturally. Or suffer less from this omnipresent distance.
And above all, with the right tools, the right information, the right way of thinking, it can be done.
Yes, you can do it !
What you need to understand is that you will have to spend time on it. You can have online dating that turns into a real success story. But you have to invest yourself. Nothing falls directly into your hand.
But we know you will, with our help. The first step is right underneath.